March 23, 2014

The Art of Letting Go

People say that no matter how OC you are or how long you have been preparing for your big day, there is no such thing as having the perfect wedding. Thus, the only way to get through the prospect of having glitches during your wedding is to just laugh it off and let it go.

I know the art of letting go is easier said than done, especially for those who spent a lot of time and money planning out their dream wedding. Take me for example. We spent more than two years planning out this whole event, and I have specific ideas on how I wanted our wedding to happen. And with only one month to go before our big day, I was starting to get stressed out over the various problems that suddenly came into our way

First was with our caterer. There were a lot of raves about them when we first booked them, so we were pretty confident that they will deliver on our wedding day. There were a few bad reviews in between, but we thought that since our wedding is still far away, they would have enough time to improve on their weaknesses. But in January this year, there were a lot of bad feedback about them. Since it was already close to our wedding, these negative reviews worried me.

Then we had another problem with our venue, Christ the King Parish Hall. Remember how much I raved about this one? I really thought I found the perfect venue because it is so close to our church, it is reasonably priced, and it allows live bands to play inside. Apparently, I was wrong on that last count. Just last week, I learned that the management does not allow full bands to play inside the hall! I was outraged when I heard this news because I had confirmed this detail with Ms. Aileen, who was the former officer-in-charge of the parish hall, before booking the hall, and she did say that full bands were allowed. Now, the new OIC is telling us that Ms. Aileen was wrong; we aren't allowed to have a  full band play in our reception. Ano ba talaga?! What's even more frustrating is that we already paid Composed Band in full so it's too late to back out now. Nakakainis!

When Mox heard about these problems, he immediately wanted to find a new caterer and a new venue. Again, easier said than done. Since we only have one month left before our wedding, it would be nearly impossible to find a venue that is open on our date. Plus, it would mean letting our full payment of the parish hall go down the drain and shelling out more cash to book a new venue. Honestly, we just couldn't afford it anymore.

I was really feeling so sad and stressed out over these issues that I was not excited about our wedding anymore. Imagine, more than two years of planning and yet everything was a mess. I was not so sure about our caterer anymore, and now our band couldn't even play with drums during our reception. I was ready to give up then.

But then I realized, why am I stressing over these things? Why am I putting so much focus on just one day? I was missing the big picture, the real reason why I am getting married. Yes, it would be definitely embarrassing to feed our guests with substandard food, and it would be boring not to have any band play in our reception, but in the end, who cares about that? We will forget about these details eventually, but we will not forget the happiness and the love that we will feel during that our wedding. In the end, that's what matters the most.

And with that, I began to let go of all the stress in dealing with all the nitty-gritty details of the wedding. We were able to find backup plans for our problems with the caterer and venue, but even if we didn't have any solutions for these, I wouldn't care anymore. I'll still be the happiest girl in the world because I will finally marry the love of my life on that special day.



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