The Art of Letting Go

People say that no matter how OC you are or how long you have been preparing for your big day, there is no such thing as having the perfect wedding. Thus, the only way to get through the prospect of having glitches during your wedding is to just laugh it off and let it go.

I know the art of letting go is easier said than done, especially for those who spent a lot of time and money planning out their dream wedding. Take me for example. We spent more than two years planning out this whole event, and I have specific ideas on how I wanted our wedding to happen. And with only one month to go before our big day, I was starting to get stressed out over the various problems that suddenly came into our way

First was with our caterer. There were a lot of raves about them when we first booked them, so we were pretty confident that they will deliver on our wedding day. There were a few bad reviews in between, but we thought that since our wedding is still far away, they would have enough time to improve on their weaknesses. But in January this year, there were a lot of bad feedback about them. Since it was already close to our wedding, these negative reviews worried me.

Then we had another problem with our venue, Christ the King Parish Hall. Remember how much I raved about this one? I really thought I found the perfect venue because it is so close to our church, it is reasonably priced, and it allows live bands to play inside. Apparently, I was wrong on that last count. Just last week, I learned that the management does not allow full bands to play inside the hall! I was outraged when I heard this news because I had confirmed this detail with Ms. Aileen, who was the former officer-in-charge of the parish hall, before booking the hall, and she did say that full bands were allowed. Now, the new OIC is telling us that Ms. Aileen was wrong; we aren't allowed to have a  full band play in our reception. Ano ba talaga?! What's even more frustrating is that we already paid Composed Band in full so it's too late to back out now. Nakakainis!

When Mox heard about these problems, he immediately wanted to find a new caterer and a new venue. Again, easier said than done. Since we only have one month left before our wedding, it would be nearly impossible to find a venue that is open on our date. Plus, it would mean letting our full payment of the parish hall go down the drain and shelling out more cash to book a new venue. Honestly, we just couldn't afford it anymore.

I was really feeling so sad and stressed out over these issues that I was not excited about our wedding anymore. Imagine, more than two years of planning and yet everything was a mess. I was not so sure about our caterer anymore, and now our band couldn't even play with drums during our reception. I was ready to give up then.

But then I realized, why am I stressing over these things? Why am I putting so much focus on just one day? I was missing the big picture, the real reason why I am getting married. Yes, it would be definitely embarrassing to feed our guests with substandard food, and it would be boring not to have any band play in our reception, but in the end, who cares about that? We will forget about these details eventually, but we will not forget the happiness and the love that we will feel during that our wedding. In the end, that's what matters the most.

And with that, I began to let go of all the stress in dealing with all the nitty-gritty details of the wedding. We were able to find backup plans for our problems with the caterer and venue, but even if we didn't have any solutions for these, I wouldn't care anymore. I'll still be the happiest girl in the world because I will finally marry the love of my life on that special day.

Our Love Story ♥

Remember when I told you that you have to wait for our wedding to see our whole prenup video? Well, looks like I failed the marshmallow test. I just couldn't wait until our wedding to show you our video, so I'm sharing it to you now! Sorry naman. Talagang na-low EQ ako.

I just love how the video captures our love story perfectly, and it has that whole romantic-comedy vibe that we wanted. Pacute na kung pacute, but we want the viewers to laugh and smile whenever they watch our video. And many of our friends did tell us that they really felt our kilig when they saw our video. So kudos to Aisle 1401 for a job well done! :)

Of course, I also want to thank my fiance for being game during the filming of the vide, and for being the best actor ever! Effortless na effortless talaga ang acting mo. Also, thank you to my best friend Wil, who is also Mox's best man in our wedding, for appearing as an extra in our video.  Ikaw na ang best supporting actor! :)


Mox and Nat's Love Story from Aisle 1401 on Vimeo.

DIY: Wedding Invitations

Most soon-to-wed couples tend to DIY their wedding invitations, and Mox and I were no exception. We plan to create our own invitation just so we can save on printing costs. Most invitation suppliers have a minimum requirement for their printing—about 50 to 100 pieces—and I don't think we would need that many invites. Gastos na nga sa papel, gastos pa sa pera. Plus, we want to put our own spin on our invite to make sure it reflects our theme, so DIY was the only way to go. :)

Since Mox is the Photoshop expert, we decided that he would be the one in charge of all our stationery needs. Since our wedding theme is summer/beach, we wanted our invites to be colorful and fun! No fancy embossings or formal calligraphy please. 

Our wedding invite is a single-fold card printed back-to-back. The main invitation details and other wedding info were on the front and back pages, respectively, while the entourage page was printed on the inside. Mox also decided to do avatars for each entourage member, which was a cute touch. Hehe.

Then we printed our map insert on a single page.

Our invites were larger than the usual invitations so we had a difficult time searching for the right envelope. Then I found brown 6x9 catalog envelopes. The size was perfect, and the envelopes were inexpensive too! It was a win-win buy. :) But I suggest that you find the perfect envelope first, then adjust your layout based on the envelope size, instead of the other way around. Mox didn't want to adjust his layout so we had to look for an envelope that would fit an 8x13 card folded into half. It was a bit of a challenge, so please do not follow us. Haha!

We were inspired by Aweng and Thessa's wedding invitation, so we decided to do ours just like them. We printed our monogram on sticker paper, created some tags then decided to tie our invites together with some jute strings. I heard that you can buy four rolls of jute strings at Japan Home Center for only P66, but luckily, I found one roll among the art supplies of my brother, so I didn't have to buy one. Yey, bawas gastos ulit!

Time to put things together

Here are our finished invites! :)

Ready for distribution

Here is the breakdown of all the materials that we used for our invitation.

We spent less than P2,000 for 40 invites, which means that the cost per invite falls at only P46! Not bad right? We spent a lot on printer ink because our invites are fully colored, but at least we can still use the leftover ink to print other stationeries like our missalette covers, table numbers, etc.

I am so proud of Mox because he was in charge of everything! He did the layout, printed the invites and cut them out himself! Good job baby. :)

Now, let's hope all our invited guests would RSVP before the deadline! Cross your fingers guys.

Kudos to Our Prenup Suppliers!

I'm happy to say that we have finally received our official prenup photos from our photographer Project Happiness. Whee! I really love our photos; I actually had to restrain myself from sharing all of them here before our wedding. Nalo-low EQ talaga ako, promise. But for the purpose of writing our prenup suppliers' ratings, I'll let you have a sneak peek on some of our photos. Hehe.

PHOTOGRAPHERS: Project Happiness (formerly Osep&Mimi Photography)
Peso Power: Included in our photo package, but added P1,000 for the OOT fee
Contact Details: 0927-8053493
Rating: 4.5 out of 5

As you all know, Osep&Mimi was the first supplier that I booked. I was really excited to work with them for our prenup and wedding, but then, I heard that Osep and his girlfriend/business partner Mimi broke up. I was so worried that their whole business would go down as well. I was actually THIS close to looking for other photographers, but I decided to  wait for our prenup and see whether I'll stick with them or not.

But as soon as we started our prenup shoot with Osep and his new partner Chris, I knew that sticking with them would be the right choice! We weren't models, but we didn't have a hard time posing during the shoot. Osep made us very comfortable in front of the camera, and since we are not fans of super-cheesy poses, he directed us on poses that were fierce and astig. Haha! Plus, he was so game to do some buwis-buhay shots. Walang ka-ere ere sa katawan!

Our prenup photos also came with 40 4R-size prints, which were originally not included in our photo package. So those prints were definitely a pleasant surprise. By the way, here are some of my favorite shots. Grabe, mukha kaming mga models! Haha!

 

I had to give Project Happiness minus points though because I had a hard time contacting Osep during the planning of our prenup. Also, it took a long time for him to send our prenup pics, even though he already promised us that he would send them immediately. Of course, I understand that he is in the middle of fixing all the loose ends with Mimi, but that is definitely one negative point against him.

PRENUP STYLIST: Aira Franco
Peso Power: P7,000 (old rate)
Contact Details: aira@airafranco.com
Rating: 5 out of 5

Since this is our official prenup, I decided to splurge a little and get Aira Franco as our prenup stylist. During my meeting with her, she suggested a lookboard that was more hipster than her usual bohemian looks. I was a bit nervous yet excited because it was so different from our usual getup. Can you imagine, she was able to get Mox to wear boots! Nakakatuwa!

At first I thought she was the usual kikay stylist, but she was the complete opposite. Cowboy na cowboy siya! In fact, she and Mox got along pretty well because they both have the same interests: skateboarding and surfing. Ako pa ang na-OP sa kanila. Haha.

During our shoot, she really took care of us, making sure that we weren't tired, hungry or hot. She carried our bags all the way to our next location and even helped me go down the big white rocks  near the dam just so I wouldn't slip. She was our ever-reliable personal assistant that day. :)

One thing I really liked about her was that she makes sure we always look great in the photos. I remember one instance when I was sitting on the ground wearing my ultra-short shorts, Aira went over to position my bag in front of me, just so my elephant-like thighs would be covered. Panira kasi sa picture eh. Haha

PRENUP HMUA: Boombee Bartolome
Peso Power: Included in Aira Franco's package
Rating: 4.5 out of 5

Aira's styling package also came with free on-site prenup hair and makeup, so we didn't have to worry about booking a prenup HMUA. At first, I thought our HMUA would be Fritz Mortel, Aira's usual partner, but it was Boombee who was assigned to us that day.

I love her makeup on me; I looked so fresh and radiant! She was also ready with her pack of tissues and her retouch bag to make sure we were always pretty and handsome at all times. :) But I can't give her a perfect score because my head hurt from all the pulling and combing during our shoot.

VENUE: Wawa Dam, Montalban
Peso Power: P1,300 (for permits) and P1,000 (for miscellaneous fees)
Rating: 4 out of 5

Who knew that a place as beautiful as this one is only an hour away from my house? Even Osep and Aira were in awe of the beauty of Wawa Dam. They kept on asking me how I found about it. The lighting was absolutely perfect! Even at three in the afternoon, the sunlight was soft and not so harsh.

The people in Wawa Dam were also very helpful, from the barangay officials to the tour guides. The guide assigned to us led us to some of the more picturesque spots in the dam, and helped us haggle with some of the locals. 

What I didn't like about the place was that everything you do has a price, literally! One time, we had to cross a wooden bamboo bridge to get to the other side, and we were asked to pay P5 per person! Grabe lang. Of course, even with all those "hidden" fees, Wawa Dam is still relatively cheaper than the other prenup venues, so it's all good. Isipin na lang natin na tulong na natin iyon sa kanila. :)

Wedding Docs 101: Correcting Discrepancies in Church Documents

One of the usual headaches that soon-to-weds encounter during wedding preps is when there is a discrepancy in their required wedding documents, whether it's in their birth certificate or their baptismal and confirmation certificates. I swear, ang hirap mag-asikaso ng mga papeles para sa kasal.

I also had some problems regarding my church documents.. You see, I do not have a "Ma." in my birth certificate, but in my baptismal and confirmation certificates, they affixed a "Ma." before my name. Apparently, there is a rule that every girl must be baptized with a "Ma." in her name, which will serve as her Christian name. Unfortunately, Christ the King would not accept my baptismal and confirmation certificates because of this discrepancy. Sobrang strict nila sa totoo lang.

And so, I had to request for a partial change of my parish records. I tried searching for blogs that would give me an idea on how to do this, but I couldn't find one. And so, by writing this post, I hope that I can help other soon-to-weds in fixing any discrepancy in their church documents... or at least those couples who were baptized/confirmed in churches under the Diocese of Cubao. Hehe.

Here is the step-by-step process in requesting partial changes of my baptismal certificate. I also followed these same steps to fix the discrepancy in my confirmation certificate.
 

1. I went to the church where I was baptized—St. Joseph Shrine in Anonas, Cubao—to ask for a letter from the parish priest requesting for an amendment on my baptismal record. The church required a clear copy of my NSO birth certificate and Form 137, which is the transcript of my school records. Since I didn't have my Form 137, I was asked to bring copies of three valid IDs as reference. I also had to write an affidavit stating the corrections and the purpose of my request.
   
   
2. I then brought the request letter, my baptismal certificate, affidavit and  other documents to the Chancery Department for approval. It is the building in front of the Immaculate Concepcion Cathedral in Cubao.
   
   
3. Once my application for partial changes was approved, I was given a written decree issued by His Eminence, authorizing the parish priest of St. Joseph to correct my baptismal record.
   
   
4. I then brought the written decree and the related documents to St. Joseph. After a few minutes, my baptismal certificate already had the necessary changes made. Yey! :)

Actually, the Chancery decreed that they could not delete the "Ma." in my baptismal and confirmation certificates because it is my Christian name. However, they added in the "Observada" column that despite the "Ma." in my church certificates, they still pertain to the same person. Luckily, Christ the King still accepted my certificates even though my name was not officially changed. Yey again!

Of course, there were some fees involved in the changing of parish records, although I really couldn't remember how much I paid for them. So just to be safe, be sure to prepare at least P1,000 for the documents.

So now, all we have to do is wait for our wedding banns to be released and our church documents are done! Yey! :)

Our Save-the-Date Video by Aisle 1401

With only two months left before our wedding day, it's time to reveal our Save-the-Date video, made by Aisle 1401! Watch this, and you'll probably get an idea on how Mox and I met and "fell" in love. Haha!

You have to wait after the wedding for our full prenup video though. Syempre, kelangan may surprise pa rin. Hihihi.


Mox and Nat 's Teaser from Aisle 1401 on Vimeo.

 

The Marriage Vocation Program for the Engaged

Two weekends ago, Mox and I attended the Marriage Vocation Program for the Engaged at Christ the King Church. This two-day workshop serves as our pre-cana seminar, which is a requirement for our wedding.

So why do I call it a workshop? Because it is  more interactive than the usual lecture-type seminars. First, the speakers will give a short talk and then share their experiences as connected to the topic. Then, the couples will be given questionnaires that they must answer individually, after which they will discuss their answers to their partners. Frankly, I thought that the 15 minutes given for the couple's dialogue weren't enough! Ang dami ko pang gustong idiscuss kay Mox. Haha!

At first, I was irritated because I thought the seminar was too long, but in the end, I was very happy that Mox and I took the time off our busy schedules to attend this workshop. We were able to touch on topics that we haven't really discussed thoroughly during our three-year relationship. We talked about our opinions on love, communication, religious expectations, children and even sex! Mox and I have similar views on some topics, but we also discuss those where we have different opinions.It's really refreshing to know Mox's take on the things that are undeniably important for our marriage. :)

Aside from the couple's sharing, there were also small group discussions where we had to share our opinions to other couples in our group. It's nice to hear their views on the topics discussed because it opened our minds on the different challenges that we may face once we get married. We also made some new friends too! :)

The seminar fee is P2,500 per couple, which is already inclusive of lunch and AM and PM snacks for two days. There was even an official photographer who took our couple photo and group photo, which were our souvenirs from the seminar. After a thanksgiving mass, we had a short "graduation" ceremony where we were given our certificate. Yey!

There are other similar workshops like Discovery Weekend and CEFAM that are accepted as pre-cana seminars for Christ the King. But for those who cannot afford the fees for those seminars, the Marriage Vocation Program is the perfect alternative. :)